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Have you ever used Magnesium for anxiety?

What supplements do you take to combat anxiety? There have been many suggestions over the years to great supplements that can help to calm down one’s anxiety. I personally take a natural supplement to help my nervous system relax and remain calm and there are things that I give my children too. One of the things that we’ve all taken is Magnesium so I thought it was interesting when I saw this article about Magnesium.

Have you ever used natural supplements for your children? If so what’s worked and what hasn’t?

LOS ANGELES, Dec. 5, 2011 /PRNewswire/ — A supplemented intake of magnesium is found to enhance the brain’s ability to reduce fear and anxiety responses, making way for a possible supplemental treatment for many anxiety disorders such as social anxiety disorder, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), panic disorder, specific phobias and others. In the October 2011 issue of The Journal of Neuroscience, top neuroscientists at Tsinghua University in Beijing, University of Texas, and University of Toronto revealed that by increasing the extracellular magnesium concentration in the brain through a new magnesium compound called Magtein™, the cognitive ability – an essential facility that controls fear and anxiety – is enhanced. This development becomes extremely significant considering anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in America, affecting 18% of the population(1).

“Through our study, we found that increasing brain magnesium with Magtein enhances not only the learning and memory ability, but also top-down inhibition of fear memory of rats,” explains Dr. Guosong Liu, one of the study’s principal scientists. “When the cognitive ability is enhanced, fear responses such as anxiety-like and PTSD-like behaviors, are controlled.”

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8 ways to keep your sanity during the holidays

I was a little shocked to see that my last blog post was on November 18th. I knew it had been a while but didn’t think so much time had lapsed. We’ve had a bit of a roller coaster ride lately and as much as I love talking things out here at the blog sometimes life takes a turn that just gives you little time at the end of the day to share and has you so emotionally spent that my eyes are too tired to see any more.

So, I thought to kick start the return of (hopefully daily) entries here at the blog we’d delve right into the craziness of Christmas. I don’t know about you but we’ve already begun the seasonal parties and anxiety is running high. On top of a bit a medical scare we’re all a little over-stressed, over-whelmed and over-tired. So when I came across this article today I thought it would be perfect to share. The 8 ways to keep your sanity during the holidays is perfect to remind us in a no nonscence way that there really is a way around the Christmas craziness. Hope you enjoy it!

The weather outside might be frightful but inside it’s definitely worse. According to New York psychologist Jay Seitz, 25 percent of people experience some kind of holiday anxiety or depression. That is, one in four people sipping eggnog feel like that stale, bland, unpopular fruitcake that was re-gifted five times before it was fed to the neighbor’s cat on Christmas Eve. Yes, the holidays do bring a magic and excitement to the month of December, but the stress, loneliness, and blues pre-packaged with the festivities can be enough to drag a quarter of us across the tenuous line from sanity to insanity.

Here are eight tips intended to keep you from hurling the mistletoe at Uncle Fred because he asked for the butter in the wrong tone of voice.

1. Find your kind of people

The good/bad news of holiday depression is that so many people suffer from it that it’s easy to find a person with whom to relate. It’s unfortunate that one-fourth of the US population would prefer to skip the month on December. However, this means that people who hide from carolers are certainly not alone—and, if they join up with the folks chucking holiday letters in the trash unopened, they will feel a companionship that can definitely lift their moods. The trick is identifying this 25 percent.

Here’s a hint. They are typically the ones who don’t say much after the question, “How are you?” Or, if they do, their response is something like, “Okay… How are you?,” which is code for “How the hell do you think I am?” Stick with them.


Read the original article by THERESE J. BORCHARD at the World of Psychology

Non-drug approach to mental health

This post is part of the Best of the Best on the S-O-S Blog for November

A number of people have recently asked my opinion of drugs for mental health and here’s something you may find interesting.
I am always looking for ways to combat Sydney’s social anxiety, Ehren’s generalized anxiety and my own panic attacks. I realize that for some the time comes when in order to live some semblance of life they must move to medications. I have learned so much about myself over the last two years as well as the how’s and why’s that my body does things that I really think sometimes we need to slow down and really listen to what our bodies are saying. For some of us it’s a little bit of that push and pull with our minds to overcome the negativity. I think if there are alternatives to medications we should explore them with open minds. If we rely on only those that just mask these symptoms we are not helping ourselves or our children at all.

So it was amazing to see an article today titled, “Anxious no more“, which discusses cognitive behavioral therapy. If you haven’t heard of Wikipedia describes cognitive behavioral therapy as:

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a psychotherapeutic approach: a talking therapy. CBT aims to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and cognitions through a goal-oriented, systematic procedure in the present. The title is used in diverse ways to designate behavior therapy, cognitive therapy, and to refer to therapy based upon a combination of basic behavioral and cognitive research.[1]
There is empirical evidence that CBT is effective for the treatment of a variety of problems, including mood, anxiety, personality, eating, substance abuse, and psychotic disorders.[2][3] Treatment is often manualized, with specific technique-driven brief, direct, and time-limited treatments for specific psychological disorders. CBT is used in individual therapy as well as group settings, and the techniques are often adapted for self-help applications. Some clinicians and researchers are more cognitive oriented (e.g. cognitive restructuring), while others are more behaviorally oriented (in vivo exposure therapy). Other interventions combine both (e.g. imaginal exposure therapy).[4][5]
CBT was primarily developed through a merging of behavior therapy with cognitive therapy. While rooted in rather different theories, these two traditions found common ground in focusing on the “here and now”, and on alleviating symptoms.[6] Many CBT treatment programs for specific disorders have been evaluated for efficacy; the health-care trend of evidence-based treatment, where specific treatments for symptom-based diagnoses are recommended, has favored CBT over other approaches such as psychodynamic treatments.[5][7] In the United Kingdom, the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence recommends CBT as the treatment of choice for a number of mental health difficulties, including post-traumatic stress disorder, OCD, bulimia nervosa, and clinical depression.

Focusing your thoughts on the here and now allow help to alleviate the symptoms of anxiety and over time and continued effort of the part of the sufferer it can bring them back into a existence which is not so worry and fear based.

So, in this article today it was so refreshing to find that “the Stanford study is part of a newer focus on analyzing non-drug approaches to mental health treatment.” What an amazing way of thinking. Like the article says not every approach is going to help every one similarly not every drug will help everyone but if we could at least start to lead ourselves back to health with the most powerful tool, “our own miraculous bodies” how transformational would that be.

Here’s an excerpt from the article and I recommend reading it because it’s that forward thinking and the thinking and doing of people who can help make these changes that give everyone a fighting chance of being mentally healthy and happy.

Today, the San Jose, Calif., resident is unrecognizable as the withdrawn, anxious man he was. While squarely making eye contact, Bringas described how a clinical trial using cognitive behavioral therapy at Stanford University in 2009 all but vanquished his nearly lifelong social anxieties.

It isn’t news that the well-known therapy would yield profound changes.

But the Stanford study generated a new kind of evidence: Brain scan images revealed the therapy caused dramatic changes in the brain’s inner workings.

This fall, Stanford researchers will start a new, five-year clinical trial to continue their study of non-drug treatments for social anxiety. As with the previous one, the trial will test the effectiveness of cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness meditation in calming social anxiety.

The disorder affects about 7 percent of U.S. adults in varying severity, from the painfully shy to people deeply fearful of normal social interaction.

The behavioral therapy changes distorted thinking about oneself, and mindfulness meditation trains sufferers in awareness skills that reduce anxiety. The researchers test one of the two approaches on each subject.

MRI scans and personal accounts confirm that mindfulness meditation also reduces social anxiety, says Philippe Goldin, a clinical psychologist and Stanford researcher involved in the studies.

The new round of research will directly compare cognitive therapy and mindfulness meditation. Results thus far show the behavioral therapy and the meditation practice each stimulate different neural networks, Goldin says.

After the behavioral therapy, the prefrontal cortex – the seat of logical, analytic thinking – was more engaged in controlling reactions in the brain region from which emotions arise, the amygdala.

Cognitive behavioral therapy challenges patients to reconsider distorted thinking that generates negative self-views. Through gradual exposure to anxiety-arousing situations, it builds confidence as they realize their worst fears are unwarranted.

“Fear exposure” also breaks hardened cycles of avoiding anxiety-provoking situations.

Mindfulness meditation, in contrast, stimulates a brain network in the posterior cortical region that helps us pay attention. The shift directs the mind away from distorted self-perceptions.

It also appears to reduce social anxiety by interrupting habitual poor self-judgments and ruminations on self-defined negative traits, among other changes, Goldin says.

The discovery that each treatment stimulated a different neural network – hence a different mental approach – is critical, he said, as some people will mesh more easily with one type of treatment.

“Just like the same drug won’t help everyone, one form of mental training doesn’t necessarily help everyone,” Goldin says.

Brain scans for psychological research could ultimately prove useful in tailoring treatment approaches, says Judith Rumsey, a program officer with the National Institute of Mental Health who is overseeing the Stanford grant.

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Life is about living not just getting by. It’s about laughing and smiling and experiencing all the wonders and joys that our senses have to offer us and embracing each moment. Live for now not for tomorrow. At least that’s what I tell my kids!

Originally posted on September 1, 2011

Where does physical education class fit in your child’s curriculum?

We are working on an IEP for Sydney for most of her subjects. Due to the level of anxiety in her earlier years of school there are a number of areas where she needs some help. Not to mention the fact that her inhibitions sometimes keep her from telling the correct answers for fear of trying and of having her voice heard. Much of what is on her Individual Education Plan (IEP) is about different ways to test her as the traditional methods don’t work so well.


What she needs

  • She needs strategies such as folding the paper during a test so she’s only focused on one question.
  • She needs to conference with the teacher and have verbal answers instead of on the paper.
  • She needs someone to scribe for her such as an Educational Assistant.
  • She needs to be given extra time for tests.
  • She needs to take breaks during tests if it gets too intense for her.
  • She needs to have time to take a walk during overwhelming classes such as gym.

So, it is quite clear to anyone reading her IEP that she needs accommodation. At this point she is only expected to complete part of the curriculum and although that doesn’t thrill me I can see each year how her momentum is building, her confidence is strengthening and slowly but surely she is putting herself out there. So for certain subjects it is not a big deal to me if she has yet to really engage and participate.

Some might think that I’m not pushing hard enough, while others may say that I’m coddling her and building her anxiety level. Not in the least. First off, I am not the one in the classroom making the recommendations for her progress. It’s the teachers that are evaluating the situation and judging just how far to take things. Unfortunately, as she gets older the teachers become not just one but many in that there are different teachers for each subject and occasionally the notes and reality of what we’re dealing with doesn’t make it to everyone involved. Of course there is also the consideration that some teachers don’t find the diagnosis of “anxiety” a valid reason to be accommodating, while others well let’s face it everyone is different and has their own judgement.

What happens when there is a missing link or a misunderstanding?
Gym as I have blogged about before is a very difficult subject for Sydney. Just like every other subject on her IEP Physical Education is yet another subject where she needs help. The whole atmosphere of the gymnasium completely terrifies her as does any large venue be it movie theatre, amusement park, arenas. The gym holds a special kind of anxiety for her. From class to class she isn’t sure what will be happening or what objects will be flying in the air such as volleyballs or basketballs. So when it comes to certain activities her sensory overload can happen quite quickly and the focus on learning a new skills becomes completely blurred by the fear of it all.

Making suggestions for change
For some, this is a very hard concept to grasp. So why not just take her out of the gym, teach her the skill in the hallway and have her come back in and show that she knows the skill? Not so easy. It was also suggested that we pull back on the assistance during gym class and see what happens. They are hoping that without the assistance it will be more enticing for her to go with the flow and be a part of the group. Without assistance the idea is that she will have to stand on her own two feet. Hmm..I’m not sure about this. We have been in the school long enough that I trust them and we have a great working relationship in that we take each others advice and see where to go from there and I am confident that if this does not go as planned Syndey will be given support to help her through it.

The other day in class she was overwhelmed and one of the teachers decided to suggest something to her that did not go over very well. They were learning how to play volleyball in particular they were learning how to serve and she wanted to have nothing to do with it. The sight of balls flying in the air was enough to bring her to tears never mind being told something that in no way was encouraging but quite discouraging. You should never tell any child “they can’t do something”. You especially shouldn’t tell an anxious child that won’t be able to accomplish something because it defines their every thought and it gets embedded in their brains like cement.

So when the resource teacher approached me about this shift I had to put my two cents in.

My reservations
I have to admit I had big reservations about this move. My main concern is that clearly after the incident mentioned above she was more than distraught. She came outside at recess in full body shakes and tears. She found it terribly difficult to compose herself and from what I heard from the teacher and the educational assistant the rest of the day was very tough. Her whole body did a great big shift and not for the better.

In the grande scheme of the curriculum I do see the importance of physical education. If by leaving her to her own devices and having her hang in limbo without encouraging her I am afraid that she will begin to regress. I am worried that we will begin to see a regression in her daily activities and the great strides we have made over the years will be difficult to maintain and/or disappear. It doesn’t take much for her self-confidence to fall by the wayside and for all of those negative thoughts to invade her once strong confidence. So if she can not cope with this new change than I have informed the teacher that I have no problem with pulling back on her participation and expectations in gym class so she can continue making strides forward. If gym becomes nothing more than walking the hallways with an educational assistant or throwing the ball back and forth I am okay with that. I did say, “We understand how gym is just as important a subject as all others but I want her to continue to hit her goals and I can guarantee you that gym will be one of the last ones as it involves putting herself out there so much.”

So the wait and see approach is what we will try and I have told the teacher what I am keeping an eye open for any behaviour that becomes concerning such as refusing to go to school. I am cautiously moving forward and I guess we will wait and see.

What are your subjects that your child finds difficult? What modifications have you made for your child that enables them to grow and gain confidence? What would you do differently than I have?

The night before Halloween

The kids decided earlier this week that they won’t be heading out trick or treating this year. Instead, they have chosen a more family approach. Since Sydney has multiple food allergies trick or treating for her is always very disappointing not to mention the whole over stimulation from the frantic pace of going door to door to some overly gruesome masks and the fact that it’s dark and things are lurking in the bushes to scare you. In her 9 years she’s maybe gone out 2 of those. She’s opted instead to stay in and hand out candy. Her big brother on the other hand this year really felt the plight of his food intolerance/anaphaliaxis ridden sister and for the first time really got how difficult this trick or treating thing is for her and he too opted to sit out this year.

Instead of the running around for candy we as a family decided that we’ll carve the pumpkins the night before. We packed some Halloween bags up for the kids in the neighbourhood that they play with and today the two of them went out and hand delivered them explaining that they won’t be out Halloween night and but they wanted to take them the treats! Then on Halloween night we’ll turn off all the lights outside, order pizza, crawl into PJ’s, watch movies all tucked in our bed and let all the other ghosts and goblins haunt the night. Sounds like a plan to me!

Each year we arrive at a new milestone and this year was no different. Sydney has issues sometimes with tactile exploration of things; especially items that are really ooey and gooey like pumpkin guts. Up until this year she would not stick her hand into the pumpkin at all.

Learning to Love Touch

As mentioned in the introduction of this section, some people love touch experiences. For people who fall into this category, many of the activities reviewed above should be incorporated into their schedules frequently during the day. Even having tactile baskets, boxes and/or bags filled with lots of textured objects for them to go to during rest time is a good idea. Choosing fluffy, silky clothes and all kinds of pillows and blankets will help provide the tactile input that they crave.

For many, however, touch is not as comfortable a thing. As a matter of fact, for certain individuals, the thought of touching some substances makes them feel sick. While a coping mechanism often employed is to avoid all things tactile, this is not a healthy approach to life. Wearing gloves alleviates the need to have skin contact with objects, but an associated underlying anxiety stays with the individual throughout the day as the need to “protect” and guard against tactile stimulation is an ongoing issue.
Courtesy of Tactile Exploration and Discrimination at The Motor Story Read the full article here

Well, this year she did and she actually carved the whole pumpkin all by herself. I caught her on video working through the pumpkin guts and she even says, “I’m working through the gooey stuff.” It’s a small step but one none the less that gets her closer to facing those feelings and experiences that make her uneasy and apprehensive.

If you have a chance here’s the video of the pumpkin carving. I called it Halloween Ooey Gooey and the picture that graced the beginning of the blog post, that’s her work of art.

Happy Day before Halloween!

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