Time goes by so quickly

admin May 30th, 2008

It seems like just yesterday that we were contemplating a move and now we are officially on the 30 day countdown. It has been a crazy couple of months and it is without doubt that the best and worst is yet to come. So far if you ask the kids about moving they will be more than forthcoming about where we are moving to. The big test will come in the following weeks when what little is left in the house gets further boxed up and saying goodbye to friends. I have people telling me now how upset their children are at the prospect of loosing my children and I have to say at that moment in time I feel very guilty from uprooting all that my kids have known for the past 6 and 8 years. But change is good, at least that’s what I keep telling us.

So early next week we are venturing to the new school to register and get a tour and explain to the new school all that we have been through in the last 6 years with Syd. My hope for next week is that Sydney enjoys what she sees and maybe is a little excited about it. Sydney’s opinion I’m sure will differ and the reality is that if it goes the way yesterday went, we visited a friend of mine that works at a school and we had complete meltdown, I think I may need a good strong coffee and strength.

I’m not nieve, I know this is all tough on them and that Sydney must learn to trust everyone all over again. But she’s come such a long way and she is able to work through things better now. I must tell her exactly what we’re doing, what’s going to be happening and then I think it may at least keep her feeling slightly more secure. If I’ve learned anything at all it’s not to make things a surprise. As hard as it may be at least she knows what to expect.

I’ll keep you posted.

If you have an experience or idea that helps your child through rough times please share it with us!

Sydney picked her new room

admin May 25th, 2008

We took a drive to the new house today in order to take some measurements, find out if certain furniture will fit in the living room and dining room and most importantly we wanted Sydney to pick out her room. We felt it was important for her to pick out which room would be hers and let her feel like she was in charge. She had two rooms to choose from and in front of our family she proclaimed, “Guess which room I’m choosing?” with the biggest smile on her face she pointed to the room and proudly said, “This one!”. She was so proud of herself and we praised her decision. This is a big deal in the life of a child with Social Anxiety. First of all we’re moving into totally new surroundings, we’re all a little stressed about that. Secondly, her room will be a significant distance further from ours so it’s no surprise that she snuggled herself between her big brother and our room. Perhaps once we’re in the house moving things around the novelty will wear and anxiety will set in but for today the little step of figuring out just where her life will begin in this new house is a big step and she did it!