This time of year is my absolute favourite. From Thanksgiving all the way to Christmas it always makes me happy to be alive and thankful for all the people surrounding me that share in my memories. I am that kind of Mom that has a box of decorations for every seasonal holiday. So from the time the kids were little pumpkins and friendly ghosts, bats and black cats sauntered into our space. I was always careful not to over do it because the extra visual stimulation would sometimes make for some unrest. It was bad enough that from October 1st all the kids were talking about costumes and dressing up and the excitement just filled the air; as it still does today.
For our household Halloween was always a shot in the dark as to whether or not Sydney would go trick or treating. Every year for the most part she picks out a costume and dresses up in the house for days before Halloween. Taking the costume to school was another story. Usually, I would buy a shirt with a Halloween theme that she could wear so she’s participating but in a less noticeable style.
The question that I got asked this year was, “Do I HAVE to go out for Halloween?” No, I don’t think anyone HAS to go out for Halloween but if you want to and if you feel like you want to go out just to a house or two that’s fine. No one HAS to go out. It’s a tricky event because she has so many food allergies grabbing candy is rather disappointing because she can’t eat most of it. She sits on the floor with her brother and trades all of her stuff for three chocolates – Aero, KitKat or Smarties. That’s it!
So this year the kids had an idea. We are working through some trauma therapy work with our son and Sydney has her anxiety about the season so they both talked it through and decided that neither one of them are going to go out. Instead this was their proposal:
- Carve pumpkins the night before
- Order Pizza for dinner
- Turn off all the lights and not give out any candy
- Get into PJ’s
- Watch some Halloween movies all snuggled up together
- Make some goody bags for their friends in the neighbourhood so they can have a treat
- Spend Halloween together as a family warm and snuggly in our house
I have to say that I am more than okay with that idea, especially because they made the connection that as fun as it is to go out for Halloween it’s also fun to greet others at the door with treats. On the weekend we picked up some candy for the kids and together packed up little packages of sweet goodness for all of them. We’ve got labels on the bags and the kids will deliver them earlier in the evening to all of their friends. So they are still engaged with the festivities but it’s their way of taking on the season this year.
So however you participate in Halloween enjoy and have a Boo-riffic Halloween.
When witches go riding,
and black cats are seen,
the moon laughs and whispers,
‘tis near Halloween.
~Author Unknown









